There are many kingdoms in this world, physically and spiritually, the spiritual realm comes first than the physical, whatever manifests in the physic it needs to take place in the spiritual first, we live in a war against good and evil and no matter what you believe in, this fact cannot be denied. There is a target on a specific type of people in this world, God's image and his creation. As Christians we know why and who is targeting us. The world is so deeply distracted, comfortable in the lie that they live in and so dependant on the system, that they will do anything to defend it and fight against the truth in order to stay in their own comfort zone of illusion.

(2 Corinthians 4:4) - In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.

Jesus is the only truth of this world, and when we are not following the truth it means we have to be following a lie. There's only 2 sides of the coin.
In the world of narcissistic abuse survival there are many levels of abuse in many different perspectives and styles, but the same spirit. There's a beginning that took place in all this, The battle of good and evil since the beginning of creation. the father of lies was the first narcissist. When we read about the beginning of everything it all makes sense on why is this battle taking place in the world against a specific type of people, there's a target on empaths, the salt of the earth.

(Matthew 5:13-16) -''You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people's feet. “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.''

Satan has a sick obsession and a deep problem against God and his creation.. human beings.. He was banned from heaven by God for performing the same exact patterns of behaviour we see on the so called narcissists. He will never accept that he lost the battle with God, and he will to everything that he can in his power until the end to mock and hurt God as much as he can, we can see this in the destruction and mockery against God all over the world. He knows he only got limited time on this earth.

When we have our spiritual eyes opened by God through the power and discernment of the Holy Spirit, we can detect what we are experiencing, looking at and dealing with in all types of situations. The wisdom of the Holy Spirit will expose everything for us.

As someone who have experienced and witnessed such battle for a long term, it becomes impossible to deny what we are dealing with in the spirit, some things just cannot be unseen.

In the world of psychology this term is simply considered as a disorder when in reality it goes way deeper than that. One of the weights survivors of this battle have to carry is the external ignorant and goofy opinions from those who are still in the lie and under deception and naiveness, this type of people who deny and reject to see things for what they truly are sometimes can be just as toxic as the abuser and not safe to deal with or don't even know or are even aware most of the time that they are just on the support of making things worst and giving it more cover, for the survivors it feels like being slapped in the face after all you've been through and having your experience gaslighted and overlooked, but it comes with the benefit of also being able to discern who to share it with in order to maintain our path of healing safe enough since such experience can cause more hurt and hinder this journey.

I'm not trying to say that all external sources we might seek will give us this unpleasant experience, sometimes even those who should know better will be the ones able to cause more damage than good help and those who are not even aware of it will be the ones with the most open hearts and availability to help in such situations, sometimes it's all about what type of hearts we are dealing with regardless of what they know or not, and God see's and values that the most in people.

13 Signs of a safe person:

It is important when seeking for advice and sharing our own personal experience in a moment of more vulnerability to do it with a safe person, when looking for someone who is emotionally safe to share personal situations and experiences with, there are certain traits and behaviours to look out for. 

1. Non-Judgmental: They show interest in understanding the experience, without criticizing or making you feel bad for your feelings or experiences.

2. Good Listener: They truly listen to what you are saying, paying attention without interrupting or immediately offering solutions unless asked.

3. Empathetic: They show understanding and compassion toward what you're going through, often expressing that they can imagine how it must feel.

4. Respectful of Boundaries: They respect your emotional and physical boundaries, and won’t push you to share more than you’re comfortable with.

5. Confidential: They keep what you share private and won’t talk about your personal issues with others without your consent.

6. Supportive, Not Dismissive: They validate your emotions and experiences rather than belittling them, even if they don’t fully understand what you’re going through.

7. No Push for Quick Fixes: They don’t rush to offer solutions unless you specifically ask for advice, understanding that sometimes you just need to be heard.

8. Patient: They give you the time and space to express yourself at your own pace, without rushing you or showing impatience.

9. Emotionally Available: They are present when you need them and are genuinely interested in hearing about your struggles, not just when it’s convenient for them.

10. Consistent: They are emotionally stable and reliable, showing that they can be counted on to support you over time, not just in one-off moments.

11. No Manipulation: They do not use your vulnerability against you, nor do they make you feel guilty for opening up.

12. Encouraging Self-Worth: They help you feel valued and respected, rather than undermining your confidence or making you feel inferior.

13. Offers Validation, Not Comparison: They don’t diminish your issues by comparing them to their own or others’ struggles. Instead, they focus on your experience and offer affirmations.

The narcissist is the devil on a mission to destroy your life

(2 Corinthians 11:14) - '' And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. ''

As I mentioned earlier Satan has a specific target on those who are the salt of the earth because his goal is to wipe out of here God's people and his creation as much as he can, he hates everything that reflects and reminds him of the beauty of God and he will disguise himself as an angel of light, he will never come as someone who you will not accept and welcome into your life, he knows and studies human behaviour and body language for thousands of years, God's chosen are being monitored, and he knows exactly what to send in our way depending on our weaknesses and what we struggle with.. This is why the wisdom and discernment of the Holy Spirit and a true relationship with God are VITAL to resist his schemes
(Hosea 4:6) - My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge;
(1 Peter 5:8) - Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

Here are some signs of someone who is sent by the devil into your life:

1. Draining of your energy
2. No accountability/ responsibility
3. Manipulation and gaslight (psychological witchcraft)
4. No empathy or remorse
5. Using bible scripture out of context to manipulate
6. Allergic to peace
7. Leads you away from God
8. Provokes you to anger/wrath
9. Slander, gossip/sowing discord
10.Lies, hate and deceit
11.Isolation from friends and family
12. Conflicts all the time
13. Always have to torment something or someone

God will ALWAYS warn us

One of the things God revealed to me on this journey is that the wicked are good at pretending and deceiving but never at hiding, it never lasts for too long because something we cannot hide is our fruit, they will always expose themselves through their own fruit that it's produced. The fruit are the very essence of who we truly are, this is why God told us in (Matthew 7:15-20):

"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.
They will always expose themselves sooner or later, and God will give us all the signs and warnings, this can be in many different ways, God can use anything or anyone, but one of them is through their own behaviour especially when the mask slips down. Another similar evidence about this is (John 8:44) -

''You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. ''

We can see here that Satan himself when he lies he projects unto others his own character, this is the same trait we see in such abusers and again it proves that somehow their true colours are always going to end up exposed by themselves.

It is important that we have the discernment of the spirit and know how to hear God's voice, our gut feeling is a direct connection to the spirit of God and when we do not listen it is considered as self betrayal. The word of God also tells us that the wicked do not rest until they do harm or torment something or somebody which is another trait we see on narcissists. (Proverbs 4:16) - For they cannot sleep unless they have done wrong; they are robbed of sleep unless they have made someone stumble.
Our life can be at risk when we don't follow God's commands, warnings or even when we don't know how to listen to his voice and signs.
(proverbs 3:1-2) - My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, or length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you.
It is also important to clarify that not all abusers or toxic people are narcissists, many times such people can manifest certain behaviours due to other roots issues and past experiences, we don't want to go out there and accuse everyone of it, I do not promote such behaviour or any type of paranoia regarding this situation, It is important to be informed and educated on the differences to avoid any confusion to happen.

Here's another list of alarming signs God will allow it to happen as a warning:

1. Confusion
2. Lack of healthy boundaries
3. Rage and violent mood swings and behaviours
4. Control
5. Threats
6. Sick obsessions
7. Love bombing
8. Disturbed gut feeling around their presence (sign of a demonic spirit present)
9. Forcing a relationship or friendship
10. Stalking/monitoring
11. Demonic attacks and experiences
12. Alarming dreams and nightmares
13. God will send someone or speak through many people to warn you and wake you up

Going no Contact

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist, it will never happen because this is an unrepentant spirit that will never repent or change, and this is biblical. In many situations victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse will be accused especially by the church/religious people of being unforgiving, bitter or arrogant for setting boundaries and choosing to move on from a place where never ending disrespect, torment, and all types of offenses are done all the time by someone who refuses to repent or take accountability, the responsibility will always be put on us,  It's like being stuck in a never ending horror movie while the outside world is under a spell of not being able to see this invisible consuming force at work for what it is.

Going no contact is the only way in order to be set free from such bondage and to be able to experience freedom. All types of persecution and warfare can be expected with this step taken depending of the environment and circumstances but it cannot be compared to the end result of peace and restoration in our lives. God will never leave us nor forsake us no matter what, he created us with a purpose/mission to accomplish in this life for his glory, and not to have our life consumed away by a demonic force who thinks they own us for the rest of our lives or just because of the outside's world ignorance. This type of abuse is 100% satanic and it's designed to destroy life's, minds, families, callings, relationships, etc.. you name it.. if you know you know..

How bad do you want your happiness?